On: Commitment

My weight loss strategy isn't all that groundbreaking. I reached the point where I thought I was out of control and needed to do better and I did what I needed to do: eat right and exercise. Both of these things are common for me and have been my entire life. I don't eat out much, my favorite food is broccoli and I've played sports or danced since I can remember.  Honestly, my whole mantra is do better because I can't formally commit to making a lifestyle change.

Honestly, I suck at commitment but not in the way you are thinking. I suck at commitment because I'm on two opposite ends of the spectrum. In thought and speech - you would never know that until recently I was afraid of commitment like the three pigs were afraid of the big bad wolf.  I've since realized (with some healthy discussions with a friend) that it isn't the commitment I'm afraid of - its the potential for failure that made me extremely adverse. I also realized that said statement isn't true in just relationships but in every aspect of my life.

My name is Maya and I'm afraid of failure.

And if anyone (women especially) knows anything about dieting, they know that failure can strike at any moment when it comes to dieting. So I decided it was best if I didn't do that becuase I wouldn't commit to making me smaller. Instead I decided to focus on that idea that life is full of choices, everything is a choice...so when I'm considering my dietary needs I ask myself - is this the best choice I can make to help me reach my desire to be smaller?

This way - it takes the failure part away becuase instead of looking at everything as a pass or fail, I can look at it as a choice I made and reflect on it to see if in the future I wanted to change my justification for said choice to become standard.

I've done the same in my dating life. I have a choice to smile or spark the conversation with the cute guy to let him know I'm interested because if he doesn't reciprocate, I didn't fail...I chose to be friendly and that makes me a better person regardless.

Hopefully, this strategy keeps working!